We understand that some discussions in your Job Share Javas, particularly the possible deal-breakers may feel awkward, especially if you are meeting your IPC for the first time or don't know each other well. Totally understandable.
We would not put you through anything that causes you discomfort if we didn't feel it was super important. Make sure to do the work and think through what your deal breakers would be. Then, when you meet and cover this topic. Move through that feeling of discomfort and approach it as a necessary topic you've been advised to cover.
Melissa's golden rule before going into partnership is: If there are issues that could cause a married couple to divorce, it's too much to overcome for a new job share.
Entering a job share despite these circumstances, will put an undue strain on the partnership and will unfairly negatively impact the other job share partner and all stakeholders.
The only way you can know if there's a situation like this before going into partnership is to get-real and talk about it, even if you barely know one another.
Remember, sometimes you cannot predict financial instability as in the Great Recession or health situations that arise.
But making a commitment to being vulnerable and sharing when tough personal situations arise before you agree to go into partnership, will allow you to face and get through unforeseen obstacles.
And there are deal-breakers that may be within one partner's comfort zone. For instance, working with a partner who has a chronic health issue who'd like job share to find professional fulfillment while taking care of their well-being. We've even heard of someone job sharing temporarily to help a colleague with a terminal illness. It is personal and therefore, something you need to put some thought into beforehand.